I must be in a very outspoken mood today, because over the past
fourteen hours I have thought of four different subjects for a blog post. My grandpa,
learning styles, gossip, and bullying. Well, here’s the thing, I am an English
major. I have not been groomed to take logical steps towards a particular, much
needed conclusion, but rather to look at different pieces of humanity and recognize
the themes that run steadily through them. Both are necessary processes, I just
happen to be bad at the first one. After
spending time remembering my grandpa this morning, it was not difficult to see
the common thread in these four topics.
I’ll attempt to write a concise and coherent post about it, but just in
case I fail, I’ll come out at the end and give you the moral of the story, if
you will.
My mother’s father passed away two months before I turned
fifteen. He was the smartest guy most people who had met him, had ever met. My
grandma used to make him watch Jeopardy every
week, even though he didn’t like the show, because she swore up and down, she
had never heard him miss a question. He read more than anybody, and retained
everything he read. They lived right behind us growing up, and he was in my
life every day. There is nothing for
which I am more grateful to my parents. I’ll never forget the hours he spent
telling me about history, science, mechanics, sports, music and his very
interesting life. Grandpa wasn’t a person who someone would assume to be brilliant,
though. He was sloppy, obstinate and about the worst speller known to man. His
laziness and messy habits drove my grandma, who was madly in love with him, to
scream daily. He taught me, without my
knowing it that every human being has three or four sides. The most important lesson
Grandpa taught me however, was to focus on the good-sides of people. He never
met anybody he didn’t like and forgave all of his loved ones countless times.
He did his best to hold his friends and family in what educational professionals
call unconditional positive regard, choosing to remember the attributes people possessed
and let go of their shortcomings. It was his happy-go-lucky personality that made people forgive the disheveled know-it-all
he could be.
Bullying and gossiping are wrong. I know a lot of us have been bullied and arose
unharmed. I know all friends engage in
back-stabbing at some point. The fact is though that for all the time you spend
breaking someone down by highlighting their flaws, you could building them up by highlighting their assets. It’s the right thing to do. And if that’s not
enough motivation for you, remember: you
will make huge mistakes. You will gossip and you may bully, but if in the past
people know you to be a kind, loving person, they are
more likely to see the good side of you. They will forgive. If you accept all of this as truth, then it stands
to reason that if someone has generally been a decent friend to you, you should
give them a couple of chances to hurt you before they pay for it. When you care
about someone you have to have faith that eventually, you’ll see the person you
enjoy again.
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